"Every next level of your life will demand a different you." — Leonardo DiCaprio
Do you have goals you'd love to achieve so bad you can almost taste it? But you aren't sure how to go about it? Or you're afraid to try?
Or maybe you just don't want to feel like you're sabotaging yourself all the time and feel like your constantly banging your head against a glass ceiling of your own making.
I completely understand.
I've been involved with elite athletics for most of my life, chasing goals as a competitor and coach.
And I know how easy it is to get in your own way. Whether it's self-doubt, imposter syndrome, negative self-talk, self-sabotage, glass ceilings — I've faced them all.
Sometimes it feels like you're just bouncing off the walls, trying to figure out how to get from point A to point B, doesn't it?
But through my competitive sports career, I began to see a pattern — a cycle of stages we all go through. And it repeats each time we get to a new level. We either get stuck at that level or get a little faster at moving through it.
And I began to wonder, what if I could speed that learning process up and then teach others how to do the same?
When I was a kid, I was a promising basketball player with dreams of playing university basketball and winning a national championship.
But during my high school years, I lost my father to cancer and my mother to a heart condition.
Even so, I didn't give up on my dream of university basketball. Truth be told, basketball was the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails.
I worked my butt off and earned my way onto the best university basketball team in the country.
Then I blew my knee out.
My dream seemed over.
But I pressed on, driven by something closer to fear than courage.
I soaked up everything I could about recovering from injury, mental game, overcoming obstacles, and peak performance.
After months of rehab, I returned and went through three roller coaster years that ended in disappointment. During that time, I learned a lot about the pursuit of a dream and the failures and disappointments that come with it.
But I was battling my coach, my teammates, because I was also still fighting with myself and my own demons.
I was my own worst enemy — and I knew I wasn't in the right head space to play my final year.
Despite a ton of pressure to stay, I stepped away for a year to get my perspective back (or find it in the first place), literally travelling the west coast and living the life of a windsurfing beach bum.
And I thought about my life. And although it sounds corny...I found myself.
I wasn't afraid of failure anymore. It wasn't about me, it was about something bigger. My ego was losing its hold on me; my self-worth wasn't tied to how well I did. Basketball wasn't who I was - it didn't define me.
But I knew I still wanted to play basketball ... to finish what I had started.
I began to define myself — instead of letting results do it for me. I was maturing as a competitor, learning to be a part of the process instead of fighting against it.
I returned for my final year of eligibility and found a mental space where I could immerse myself in the process of excellence without getting in my own way.
My team had an undefeated season and won the national championship, and I was named Player of the Game in the final.
But I honestly would've been content even if we hadn't won.
I had pressed on and figured out how to develop the skills, motivation, focus, and mental toughness to get where I wanted to go — without defining myself by any particular success or failure.
I started to apply those lessons to other pursuits such as writing, dog sport, music, art, entrepreneurship...and realized that mastery is far less about talent and far more about process.
And you never know where that process will take you if you are open to it.
My life has been full of adventure, and I'd like to help you enjoy the same feeling.
I'm most proud of are the people I've coached who have had the courage to dream and take a chance on making it come true.
So I'll be giving you lots of free information about the process and path of success, as well as detailing my own lessons and experiences in whatever my current passions and pursuits are, and sharing the inspiring stories of others.
I look forward to taking this journey with you!
I've represented Canada in international competition in three different disciplines: basketball, dog agility, and sheepdog trialing, and won two world championships, a national championship, and many regional events and personal accolades along the way. I've also coached at the university (basketball) and international level (dog agility), and graduated from the National Coaching Institute of Canada.
I'm an online entrepreneur, peak performance coach, dog lover, author, musician (especially after a glass of wine!), artist, sport enthusiast — and lovin' the ride!
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