It’s happened again.
Your motivation has crashed in the face of overwhelming odds. You want to crawl under the covers and curl into fetal position.
What were you thinking? What made you think you could write the next Game of Thrones epic fantasy or win a world championship in dog agility?
This dream is paralyzing, out of your league.
It feels hopeless, doesn’t it?
Don’t give up.
Your dream matters.
You can get through to the other side. But you have to avoid one simple mistake.
A mistake I made recently.
Step through the barn door with me and I’ll show you…
We’re ready to catch, trim the hooves, and take the wool off of 150 sheep. We fidget like thoroughbreds impatient for the start of a race.
The rusty clock on the wall strikes 7:30 a.m. sharp and the shearer plunges into the work like a man possessed.
I catch a sheep. Flip it onto its butt. Trim its hooves.
Each sheep tips the scale at around 150 pounds. It’s a full...
Ah… the tornado of perfectionism.
The perfect golf swing. The perfect blog inspiration. The perfect puppy.
The motivational stuff tells us to strive for perfection. We might not reach perfection, but at least we get further, right?
But what about the frustration devouring you from the inside?
How do you silence the inner beast that horsewhips you to be exceptional…or else?
A magical place exists where perfectionism and peace live harmoniously.
Ready to follow the yellow brick road?
Many of us wait for the perfect situation. But waiting is the most insidious form of perfectionism. Indecision paralyzes us from taking action.
Theodore Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
We never take that leap of faith when waiting for something better to happen. You might wait your entire life, and get bitter...
You’ve done it again.
The same mistake that defeats you every time.
Why do you keep doing it? You know better.
You practice hard, you do the work.
But when you are right on the edge of a breakthrough you sabotage yourself every time.
Frustrating, isn’t it?
It’s like being in a glass cage that you bang your head against. Trapped with a monkey that keeps harassing you.
Would you like to finally get that monkey off your back and break out?
You can, you know.
Come on, make a break for freedom.
Why the heck do you sabotage yourself anyway?
It’s so stupid, isn’t it?
Sabotage is your safety net. It’s your mechanism to stay safe and comfortable.
You have a set of beliefs about the world around you and where you belong in it.
You believe those beliefs protect you. You believe a lie.
When you step out of your comfort zone, the little “sabotage” monkey hops up on your shoulder. He whispers that you...
Nothing is going right. Your confidence is shaken.
You feel like a salmon swimming upstream against the current.
Do you feel like you’re fighting a losing battle? Ready to give in?
I’ve been caught in that riptide too. But I want to share some hope with you.
Professional athletes use 3 simple mind hacks that you can use to turn things around.
These hacks also work in art, business and life.
Want to know what they are?
Wimbledon. 2016 quarter-finals. Centre Court.
Tennis great Roger Federer was down 2 sets to love against the powerful 6’6 Marin Cilic.
It was match point for Cilic, who was on a roll.
Do you think Federer was thinking back to their previous match in 2014 when Cilic crushed him?
Federer focused on other times when he had come back from a two-set deficit to defeat other opponents.
“I thought of the Tommy Haas match after I saved those breakpoints, went up 4-3, I...
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Dream big dreams. Follow your passion. Change the world.
How can you possibly achieve anything without a courageous, reckless, impossible dream?
But what if you don’t have a dream? Or it’s not audacious enough?
Are you a hopeless failure?
Destined to mediocrity and insignificance?
In today’s culture, it’s as if you are flawed if you don’t have a big dream.
Even Indiana Jones didn’t start his career searching for the Lost Ark.
But how do you thrive without a big dream?
Very few people start with the clarity of a big dream.
We like to think of the world as a stable place. Where we have a big dream, make a plan and follow a set road to a destination. It feels safe to think that way.
But even the most carefully laid plans can go wrong.
And it’s bloody hard to pursue a dream when you’re worried about putting food on the table or a roof over your head.
Sometimes it starts with surviving.
No one likes to be bullied.
Most people agree bullying is wrong. At least in principle.
When we hear stories of bullying, maybe we empathize because we’ve been bullied too. Or we wonder why someone didn’t step in, how it could happen. Perhaps we imagine we wouldn’t stand up for it, that we would be the hero of our own story against a bully.
So why does bullying happen? Why is bullying so prevalent?
Unfortunately, the truth is bullying works.
And in some small part of the human psyche, people perceive it to be leadership. Just like a dog that’s a bully can imtimidate other dogs. Some people perceive him to be an “alpha”, while the savvy dog person recognizes a barking dog is a weak dog. A reactive dog is a weak dog.
Bullying happens everywhere—the tiniest school playground, social media, the classroom, the boardroom, the halls of power.
Bullies often hold positions of authority or influence. They come in all different forms: a big kid on the...
Right now, I’m enraged.
And I'm looking at you, the powers that be.
This isn’t about somebody’s job interview anymore. This is goes much deeper.
This is about the integrity of our political, societal and cultural systems. This is about who we want to be.
This is about deciding what messages we, especially as women (but men as well), are going to accept, what vision we want of our world, and what we are willing to stand up for in life.
The message that has just been sent out to us is this:
If we (survivors) choose to come forward, we must prove beyond reasonable doubt that we deserve an investigation.
This is different from ‘prove beyond a reasonable doubt' the accused is guilty and should therefore be punished.
We must prove we are worthy of being believed (and must go through hell to do so).
Dr. Ford courageously came forth with very little to gain and a lot to lose because she believed those who served the highest court in the country...